Our initiative was created in order to rebuild the pillars of Volnyja.

In difficult moments, external and internal supports help - knowledge and faith, on which you can count.

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Support is the inner core that everyone has. It is not about strength or endurance, but about attitudes, feelings and knowledge that give life meaning, help not to succumb to panic and anxiety.

Support gives a person a sense of stability, security and peace. When we lose our balance, we can lean on ourselves, push ourselves back, and move on.

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The core we can lean on consists of inner and outer supports.

Internal support is a stable view of oneself, one's values, limits, strengths, preferences and important resources. And it is an integral basis of self-identification.

External support can be knowledge, material resources, social connections and confidence that they will help in a difficult moment.

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Where does the support come from? ‍

Support is formed from childhood in contact with parents and other important figures. The child relies on the external support of educators and teachers who are authoritative for his friends. Further reflects the value system and over time this experience forms its internal support.

For example, if in a family it is customary to help each other, then most likely, mutual help will be a norm and value for a person.

That's why they say: "Tell me who your friend is, and I'll tell you who you are" or "An apple doesn't fall far from the tree."

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The problem is that nothing in the world is indestructible. Global events, tragedies and crises occur almost every day. We ourselves are changing, revising our values and attitudes.

Abrupt changes, transitions to new roles and life circumstances break the foundations, and we are left to rebuild new ones.

"Change is the only constant thing in life" - Heraclitus.

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If the supports are strong

• A person with empathy treats others without harming himself,
• Easy to communicate, no fear of other people,
• Self-sufficient, does not require constant attention to itself
• open to new
• Can manifest itself.

If there are no supports

• Increased susceptibility and vulnerability. Criticism hurts
• Immunity and stress resistance decrease,
• Rejection of self and self-worth,
• Lack of understanding of one's advantages, strong qualities,
• Difficulty with creative tasks,
• Increased anxiety.

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During times of decline and change in life, it can be difficult to point out that it is all about the supports. But you should never forget about yourself.

How to build support?

Attention to the body

A healthy mind is in a healthy body. The body is our main external support. Pay attention to the state of health, what the body needs now, and provide yourself with it. Start with the basics: getting enough sleep, eating well, and staying active.

By the way, the routine helps to calm down, because this is already a support - permanence and predictability of what will happen next.

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The feeling of home

To feel safe, you need to rebuild your fortress. It is clear that everything will be different, but it is important to find a place where you will be comfortable, warm, calm. The place will become an external support, and you will continue to build yourself in a predictable and reliable environment.

Keeping in touch

Honest conversations with loved ones, friends, and specialists will help you gain insight into yourself, understand your strengths, and redefine your values.

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Recovery of resources

Remember: what used to inspire you, give you strength and help you relax? Write down all the things you enjoyed doing and think about why. And we will give a list of what can restore the resource:

- meditation,

- time in nature/with animals,

- physical activities,

- cooking,

- hobby/handicraft,

- creativity,

- massage/bath/spa,

- training,

- art.

But don't turn joyful activities into a to-do list and don't force yourself to do everything at once.

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Support each other and share what helps you recover!

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