The first steps next to Volnyja: how close to act in the first time after release
All his environment participates in the process of resocialization of Volnyja: relatives, friends and girlfriends, even people who work nearby in the service sector.
It may sound strange, but very few people really know what to do after liberation - both among Volnyja and their loved ones. That's why we asked a psychologist how to behave with people who are at large.
The first time in freedom is very important: there are many strong and overflowing emotions, meetings with family and friends, as well as the transition from long-awaited dreams to reality.
Volnyja together with psychologists have collected advice for loved ones to avoid awkwardness, misunderstandings and traumatic moments for Volnyja.
1. To be near
It would be good if Volnyja had one close person near her during her return to freedom, in whom one feels strong trust: parents, partner or mentor.
You don't have to do something all the time for support. It is enough to be nearby so that Volnyja has the opportunity to ask for help, ask, express herself and honestly say that she wants to be alone.
2. Return to independence
During the time in captivity, a person can lose the ability to be independent. Therefore, in the first days, the trustee will have to explain a lot and show how and what to use. But it is important to ask Volnyja to do it yourself next time.
3. To give the possibility of choice
In order to regain independence, a person needs to make a choice himself. Start with the simple things:
The choice should be simple and pleasant .
4. One day is one thing
It is not necessary to burden a person with all organizational matters at once. It is clear that you have to decide: whether to leave or not, legalize, look for a job and do a lot of things. But first you need to give an opportunity to exhale , to return attention to yourself.
Give free time and space for your loved ones.
5. Celebrate reality
Everything that happens - in reality. Be that as it may, it is necessary to say that now Volnyja is safe, you are nearby. Offer to talk about your feelings, describe what and how Volnyja feels, what she likes and what she doesn't like.
6. Watch your reactions
Our experiences can be traumatic for another person. On the other hand, we can feel pain and guilt when we cause hard feelings. Therefore, try to keep calm and make sure that you have a space to place your feelings - friends, a psychologist, other relatives of Volnyja.
In the case of an acute reaction (crying, wailing, regretting), a person can withdraw into himself, stop expressing his feelings honestly and talk about his experience.
7. Recommend the help of a psychologist
Say that Volnyja has the opportunity to see a psychologist/psychotherapist. If you notice alarming signals in Volnyja's behavior and reactions, it is better to insist on an appointment with a specialist.
The Volnyja initiative will help to get qualified psychological support for Volnyja and their loved ones free of charge. Contact us for help or advice. And let the resocialization process go smoothly!
